Impact the World One Arrow at a Time

Dorothy McElroy serves as an Advance Funeral Planner with Zimmer Westview Funeral & Cremation Care Center and with Ballhorn Chapels Funeral & Cremation Care Center in Sheboygan, Wisconsin. She and her son, Wyatt, are examples of how the journey through grief can bring about unexpected opportunities to help others along the way. This is her story:

My husband, Dennis Kauth, passed away suddenly and unexpectedly on March 13, 2013. Our son, Wyatt, was seven years old at the time. I needed an invisible string to connect Wyatt to his father, and archery became that string (bowstring, actually). Dennis bought Wyatt his first bow at age four, and they shot together almost every day after that. Dennis was also one of the original artists/cartographers/sculpturers for Dungeons & Dragons at TSR.

Exactly one week after Dennis died, we found ourselves on the doorstep of a local archery club. There was a public shoot, meaning we didn’t have to be members to participate. I had never shot an arrow, and yet here I was with my husband’s bow in hand. Without giving it much thought, we just started shooting.

The more we shot, the more relaxed we became. The longer the night went on, the more members reached out to help us, and we experienced many more smiles. Wyatt was wearing a dragon necklace with his father’s ashes in it. When praised for his accuracy, Wyatt held up his special necklace and said, “Allow me to introduce you to my dad, Dennis. He is guiding my arrows.” We were exhausted and sore by the time we made it back home, but we had found a new path toward healing. 

Wyatt attended grief camp shortly after his father’s death. During one activity there, he was asked to invent a special holiday to honor his father. Wyatt dreamed of a “Dragon Day” where thousands of archers around the world would shoot at dragon targets and raise money for other kids experiencing grief like his.

One year later, on the anniversary of our loss, we held the first Dragon Shoot at the club that had inspired us. My son and I went on to establish Worldwide Dragon Shooting Day and the Dancing Arrow Club to use archery as a way to help others all around the world who are grieving. With every arrow we pull back, we focus, breathe, and concentrate on our target. Unlike most archers, our target is a dragon. Grief is a metaphorical dragon, and it can be slayed. Archery can help restore the sense of control that death often steals. There is healing in every arrow you let fly. Every time a target is hit, a little more vulnerability is whittled away and a little more hope appears.

A little boy’s dream grew into a 501(c)(3) nonprofit. We currently have had Dragon Shoots in some 40 states and 67 countries, raising money for those affected by grief and loss. I am a USA Level 2 Archery Instructor, President of The Worldwide Dragon Shooting Day, Certified Grief Support Specialist, and End-of-Life Doula. Wyatt and I also volunteer at grief camps and schools, teaching about archery and grief.

Grief can take forms: death, loss of relationship, incarceration, or addiction, to name a few. When grief hits, there is a need for coping mechanisms and support. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Archery helped my son and I grieve, and still does. Do what feels rights for you when honoring the memory of your loved one. Death cannot steal the essence of someone if we carry forth what they left behind. Let us know how we can help you or someone you know slay a dragon. Please contact me at 262-325-5446 or Wwdsdnow@gmail.com. You can also visit our website: www.worldwidedragonshootingday.com.

Lance Ehrlin Receives “20 Under 40” Recognition

Lance Ehrlin, Funeral Director at Vertin-Munson Funeral and Cremation Service, was recognized by The Daily News Media and News-Monitor Media as one of twenty impressive individuals from the Breckenridge-Wahpeton area. The award was designed to showcase leading young professionals who demonstrate dedication and drive.

https://www.wahpetondailynews.com/news_monitor/under/article_6f171c58-556a-11e9-a9c8-a354beaa2eba.html

Judy Popp-Anderson Given Local and State Honors

Judy Popp-Anderson, Grief Care Coordinator at Bonnerup Funeral & Cremation Services, was honored as the Freeborn County Senior Citizen of the Year. The award is based on service and volunteer activities, and she was nominated by the staff at the funeral home. Judy hosts many meaningful grief care and suicide awareness events through the funeral home, and she also graciously volunteers her counseling services with several other organizations: Freeborn County Relay for Life, Mayo Clinic Hospice Grief Support, Freeborn County Crisis Response Team, and more.

But Judy’s special recognition does not stop there. At the Minnesota State Fair, she was also chosen as the 2019 Outstanding Senior Citizen of the Year for the state of Minnesota!

Steve and Lisa Sheets Chosen for Perham 2019 Humanitarian Award

Steve Sheets is a longtime funeral director at Schoeneberger Funeral Home in Perham, MN. For the past 24 years, he and his wife, Lisa, have chaired The Giving Tree project, which works to provide Christmas gifts to area children who might otherwise not receive any. Steve and Lisa are responsible for fielding and coding requests for children in need, and the anonymous cards are used to decorate a tree at the ITOW Museum in Perham. Community members select a card, purchase the gift, and return it to the museum. Thanks to Steve, Lisa, and many generous community members, 220 children received Christmas gifts in 2018 through The Giving Tree.

https://kdlmradio.com/news/local/2019-perham-chamber-choice-award-recipients-announced

Marilyn Claassen Receives Freeborn County’s 2020 Rose Olmsted Advocacy Award

Marilyn Claassen, support staff member at Bonnerup Funeral & Cremation Service, was named Freeborn County’s 2020 Rose Olmsted Advocacy Award recipient. Marilyn was chosen for her dedication and hard work in many areas of service such as Relay for Life and Alzheimer’s fundraisers. She is a local Red Cross instructor and has served as an EMT. As the activities director at Thorne Crest Senior Living, she was especially recognized for her advocacy for the elderly. Marilyn works to ensure the residents’ years in retirement there are as stress-free and enjoyable as possible.